A boy and a girl run around on the grass at the park. The boy tackles the girl. The girl laughs. She gets up and runs away. She loves to run. He chases, she turns and they grab each other, tumble and land in a pile, giggling. After a few minutes, he tackles her again and she lands a bit hard. She is bigger and physical, but he more than holds his own in roughhousing. She pauses for a second. Then she laughs again; she’s still having fun.
Dad gets his attention, and says, “If she’s not having fun, you have to stop.”
He is two. He needs to hear this now, and so does she. And again, and again, and again, so that like wearing a helmet on the bike it is ingrained.
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Parents, siblings, carers, cousins, teachers, tutors, mentors, aunts, uncles, etc, of young children: we have a chance to mold the gender relations of the future.
Such great advice.
I’ve done this with my kids since the moment they could each sign “more” and “all done” around 8 months old. More tickles? Or all done? More kisses? Or all done? More bouncing? Or all done?
When they’re old enough to play with others, you teach them to constantly check in with each other. Are you having fun? Or do you want to be done?
Is the shrieking laughter or fear? ASK.
Is the giggling from joy or nervousness? ASK.
Do you like being smacked with pillows? ASK.
Are you having fun wrestling? ASK.
And keep asking. What was fun five minutes ago might not be fun now.
Both kids know the moment something stops being fun, they need to stop. And they know that their wishes about what is fun and what’s not will be respected by their parents and by each other. They’ve known it since 8 months old.
This truly isn’t a difficult concept. It’s easy to teach it by example and it’s incredibly simple for children to do.
Are you having fun? Or do you want to stop?
Fucking teach it, parents. Please. ~JJ
Unlocking The Truth - Jingle Bells
Obama fucked up at Mandela’s funeral. Michelle even switched seats with him towards the end.
oh my god
Michelle’s face is killing me
I support this. She even rolled up her sleeve, just in case.
“I dont care how much theory you got, if it don’t have any practice applied to it, then that theory happens to be irrelevant. Right? Any theory you get, practice it. And when you practice it you make some mistakes. When you make a mistake, you correct that theory, and then it will be corrected theory that will be able to be applied and used in any situation. Thats what we’ve got to be able to do.”
Fred Hampton, Olivet Church, 1969
The arc of history points out Republican errors in judgment. AGAIN.
Nichelle Nichols talks to a group of students at NASA Mission Control in 1977 and visits the Lewis Research center that same year.
In the mid-1970s, Nichols has given a speech that criticized NASA for not selecting women and people of color as astronaut candidates. The agency’s response was to hire her to find and recruit talented minorities and women, and she did exactly that. In her tenure as a recruiter, she helped the agency bring five women, three African American men and an Asian American male on board.
if you don’t think this lady is the best. You’re lying to yourself and we can’t be friends
I love the way that history works behind the scenes
You got Lucille Ball pushing to make Star Trek happen
You got MLK pleading with Nichelle to stay on the show
And then you get Nichelle helping motherfuckers get jobs at NASA
that is the tightest shit and if you don’t like you can get off my blog
When we reveal ourselves to our partner and find that this brings healing rather than harm, we make an important discovery—that intimate relationship can provide a sanctuary from the world of facades, a scared space where we can be ourselves, as we are…This kind of unmasking—speaking our truth, sharing our inner struggles, and revealing our raw edges—is sacred activity, which allow two souls to meet and touch more deeply.
I am not Spanish. Spanish is just another language I speak. I am not a Hispanic. My ancestors are not descendants of Spain, but descendants of Africa. I define my existence by race and land. (Borinken is the indigenous name of the island of Puerto Rico.)
Before she became known as the “replacement” mom on The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Daphne Maxwell Reid was the first African American woman named Homecoming Queen at Northwestern University and the first Black woman to grace the cover of Glamour Magazine.
I met her at a NU homecoming event. she shared with us the racism she experienced at our school. how her first roommate saw her walk into the dorm room and stormed out because she didn’t want to live with a nigger. how when she won the crown for homecoming, the president of the university refused to place it on her head. and how when she walked on stage no one clapped for her, it was complete silence except for the black students.
Northwestern’s history is very ugly and I’m glad that I was a part of the legacy of black students that fought to make changes at NU
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