Martin Luther King Jr once related a story that demonstrated just how accurate the Black woman was at assessing her location in the scheme of things and knowing how to handle herself wherever she was. He told us about an older Black woman who had worked for a white woman in Alabama.
First as her laundress, then as her maid, then as her cook and finally as her housekeeper. After 40 years, the Black woman retired but she would go to visit her former employer occasionally. On one visit, her employer had friends over for lunch. When the employer was told the Lilian Taylor was in the kitchen, she sent for her. Lilian went into the livingroom and greeted all the women. Some of whom she had known since their childhoods.
The white woman said Lilian I know you’ve heard of the bus boycott. Lilian said yes ma’am I’ve heard of it. The white woman said, well I want to know, what do you think of it? Are you supporting it? Lilian said no ma’am not one bit. Not one little iota and I won’t let none of mine support it either. The white woman said, I knew you’d be sensible Lilian. I just knew it in my bones. Lilian said yes ma’am I won’t touch that bus boycott.
You know my son took me to live with him and his family. He won’t let me even lift a finger and he works for the power company way across town from our house. I told him, Charles don’t you have anything to do with that bus boycott. You walk to work. Stay all the way out of that bus boycott. And my grandchildren, they go to school all the way over on the East Side. I told them the same thing. Don’t have anything to do with that boycott. You walk to school. And even today, when I wanted to come over and visit you, I got a lady from my church to bring me. I wasn’t going to touch that bus boycott, sure wasn’t.
The room has become quiet and Lilian Taylor said, I know you have plenty help now but do you want me to bring you all some more coffee? She went to the kitchen and was followed by the white woman’s daughter. Who asked her, Lilian why do you treat my Mother like that? Why not just come out and say you support the boycott? Lilian said, honey, when you have your head in the lion’s mouth, you don’t snatch it out. You reach up and tickle him behind his ears and you draw your head out gradually.
Every Black woman in this country has her head in a lion’s mouth.
Question: What do you think of being labeled punk or proto-punk?
Death: We appreciate the rock historians labeling us this. When we made this music from 1973 on, we always called it hard-driving rock ‘n’ roll. The term “punk” for music was non-existent in those years, as a matter of fact, if you called someone a punk in those years — us included — those would be considered fighting words which usually got you either a black eye or a bloody nose.
I’m a college student who needs a computer to complete homework assignments, submit applications and the like. I literally would fail out of university without a computer. A lot of people need them for their jobs. Depending on your cup size, decent bras can be incredibly expensive. It’s a splurge for me personally to buy a good bra, seeing as most of the time, I’m looking at a $40+ purchase. In fact, my best $40 bras still aren’t particularly “good” bras. If someone has to rely on their laptop or computer to make a living and/or get through school, but can live without a “good” bra, is it really that much of a stretch that a person might spend that $40+ on a necessity like groceries or something? This gets further complicated when we consider people with children and the added expense that comes with being a parent. In fact, I remember when I was little, my mom bought her first computer because I needed it for school projects.
I don’t know what this post is in response to, but you’ve failed to take so much into consideration and I find the idea that having a computer yet not having a good bra being indicative of a lack of priorities to be really, really bizarre.
Other things to consider :
maybe someone was given their laptop/computer second hand.
or maybe they bought it when they were better off financially.
maybe they saved up for it for months/years and decided to splurge on themselves.
maybe it’s on loan from a friend or family member.
maybe they’ve had it for 10 years
Just because someone has nice things, doesn’t mean it reflects on their current situation.
And while Devin pointed out (in this post, and in a separate one) that a computer can be a thing of necessity when it comes to finding a job or needing to do school work, it is also an endless source of entertainment when/if you can connect to the internet (public libraries are a good place to get free internet when you can’t afford it!). Which when you can’t afford to just go out and buy the simple things you need like new underwear in a decent quality unless you want to go hungry for the week can be such a blessing so you can escape your day to day worries and keep up on current events, read something fun, watch your favorite show, talk with a friend half way across the world, etc…
Last time I went shopping for underwear, they wanted me to pay with money rather than with used electronics.
My computer was given to me by a friend when someone gave him a newer one. This was an extremely nice chain of generosity, but go figure, the Lingerie Fairy doesn’t seem to deliver where I live.
Between this and the “OMG YOU HAVE A CELLPHONE” crap, people seriously need to get their heads out of their asses and stop acting like poor people are unworthy of having nice things.
Earlier this month, two young, beautiful Black women, Britney Cosby and Crystal Jackson, were left dead in a dumpster in Texas. Their apparent crime? Being in a romantic love that by all friends’ accounts was sweet and wonderful. Their apparent murderer? The father of one of the women didn’t like her sexual orientation, her relationship, or her girlfriend, and he killed them both, leaving them to rot like garbage.
This past weekend, Gawker published a devastating essay written by a friend of mine. The title was taken, with permission, from the Cocker Spaniels' last album. I'm honored by the shout-out, but I'm also saddened by the events that inspired her to write this essay. Please read it in its entirety, and ignore the comments.
student:yes, also colloquial irregularities occur frequently in any language and since you and the rest of our present company understood my intended meaning, being particular about the distinctions between "can" and "may" is purely pedantic and arguably pretentious
"The GOP has billionaires, lobbyists, several prominent media outlets, and an entire news network dedicated to furthering its cause; they don’t need Ebony too.
These “outraged” Conservatives are the worst kinds of bullies. They demand an apology for a tweet, but are suspiciously quiet when their own cohort attacks the President, immigrants, people of color, or women who do not kowtow to their beliefs.
Danna Renée Williams, a.k.a. “DIY Danna” or “DJ Woman from Mars,” has been a good friend and vocal supporter of the Cocker Spaniels since (and possibly before) I first moved to Austin.
Right now, she’s battling cancer, and needs help paying her medical bills. She, along with mutual friends Art Pinsof and Leonard Smith, has curated this compilation for that purpose, and I contributed an exclusive song to it.
This compilation boasts an impressive roster of artists who operate on the fringes of Austin’s music scene, many of whom I’d have never known existed were it not for Danna. Please listen with an open mind, and give generously if you can! <3
Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.
This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.
I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.
I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.
As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.
The White House is proposing to derail loan forgiveness for law students (all grad students actually) by proposing a change in the upcoming federal budget that would cap loan forgiveness for students. The current program forgives the balance of student loan debt if you work for 10 years in a public interest legal career. The new proposal would get rid of the 10 year forgiveness and instead cap it at $57,500, and make students pay the rest for another 15 years. To put this in perspective, if you have $150,000+ worth of debt when you graduate, you make minimum payments for 10 years (which would knock off ~$75k), your balance would be forgiven after 10 years, meaning almost $100k in debt would go away. Now, you’d only knock off $57k, and still have to pay over $100k for 15 more years. This means some people (like me) wouldn’t pay off student loan debt until their 50s. Please join me in signing this petition to tell President Obama to keep the current loan forgiveness program in place and not punish students who are committed to serving low-income communities!