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21st June 2012

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I wonder if the reason why so many people fear confrontation is that they associate the word SOLELY with rage, aggression, and/or violence.

To these people, confrontation must mean nothing short of yelling, cursing, and Hulk-smashing everything and everyone in sight.

Maybe that’s why so many people engage in tone policing, or otherwise focus more on the person’s style of communication than they do on what is actually being said.

I know we don’t like adhering strictly to the dictionary’s definitions of words…but if we did so in THIS case, the spectrum of confrontation would be a lot broader than many people allow it to be.

Sometimes, confrontation can be as small and simple, yet somehow still firm, as saying “don’t call her that” to the angry White folks insulting the Black woman who mistakenly entered the “quiet car” with a phone in her hand.

I associate confrontation with courage.

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    The bolded especially, because, yes.
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  15. lawbyrd said: I think this is interesting in so many ways. Like people hear ‘confrontation’ and its an automatic negative thing, they prepare themselves as if they just heard ‘fight!’ I think these goes to the heart of communication problems in relationships too.